Sleeping on their own.

I’m not gonna lie. Having 4 of us in one queen-sized bed is torturing me. I wake up with back aches, neck aches and all the aches a human can have.

Hubby’s not complaining though. And that’s just because he doesn’t have an 11kg toddler sleeping on (yes, literally, on) him and a little biter who needs milk every now and then.

And the 2 of us are not exactly small built okay?

So a few days ago, i got my kids a new comfortable, thick and nice mattress to train them to sleep on the floor. Why can’t i just let them sleep in the other rooms, you ask? Well, let’s just say they have an overly attached father who doesn’t get tortured by them in the middle of the night.

Yeap, my husband refuses to let them sleep on their own. So to think of a win-win situation, a friend suggested that i let my kids sleep on the floor, in the same bedroom.

HS1, the elder one, has troubles adjusting to this new sleep area. The younger one though, HS2, is such a pro. So pro that i worry that my milk supply will be very affected because he doesn’t need to be fed in the middle of the night anymore. What’s worse, i’ve even hung up my pumps, so i’m not exactly regulating my supplies anymore.

Any mummies here successfully let your kids sleep away from you and still have good milk supply?

Do you think i should slot in a pump and dump session at night just to regulate my production?

Should i just sleep with my kids on the floor? (key is training them to sleep on the floor, so i don’t think i’d ever want to bring HS2 up to sleep with me. Because HS1 will not want to be sleeping on the floor alone)

What do you think?

Love,
MamaHS

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For the sleep we need.

Family and friends knew how almost strictly i keep to my routines with the boys.

That’s just because i need my darn sleep. Being a full-time employee, a dutiful wife and a mother of 2, its exhausting. AND I NEED MY SLEEP.

You know that saying a happy mama makes a happy baby

Yea. I guess a well-rested mama makes a happy baby.
Sleep training is definitely easier with a newborn and takes a lot of patience.


So here’s some tips from me if you need to know how i did it.

1. Never obsess with timings.

People say 10pm is too late. But hey, that’s the best timing that works for me and the kids.
Because here’s what happens that leads to that bedtime.

7pm: we get home.i cook.
8pm: dinner
8.30pm: shower
9pm: all ready for bed with favourite activity which is either reading or playing with some toys or simply just some snuggly time.
9.30pm: lights off

And by 10pm, they are asleep.

I get a short 1 hour of time with the kids but if i were to put them in bed earlier, i won’t even have time to spend with them!

What’s key is that you find the balance. Most importantly, the kids are not overtired.

2. Have a routine.

My kids are so used to the routine above. Once we are done with shower, and the moment we switched off the lights, they knew its time for bed. So that lessens my stress to keep them in bed.

3. Do not give in to their little whims.

This may sound a little cruel, but trust me. These kids need to learn how to self-soothe themselves back to sleep.

Mama ain’t gonna be there forever to at and hush you back to sleep, lil fella.

Its hard. But trust me, this will definitely help them to not rely on you to put them back in bed.

4. Keep the room dark and cool. With some noise.

It’s not rocket science that we sleep better in the dark. Be sure that room is cool. I mean, WHO WANTS TO SLEEP IN SWEAT?!

5. Spacing out naptimes. Not too near bed time, please.

But do not let day go by without them napping, even if its too late. We want them tired at bedtime, not overtired. Know the difference, mommas!

6. No rocking, carrying, shushing or even patting them to sleep.

It is key that they fall asleep themselves. We can cuddle before bedtime, but leave them to fall asleep on their own.


That’s a few tips i have for you mommas struggling with bedtime.

Hope it helps you even in the slightest way. I’ll write again when i remember more useful tips.

Till next time, Happy sleeping.

Love,
MamaHS

Keeping up with the supply.

Wondeful morning.

What’s not wonderful about pumping 400ml of breastmilk? Honestly, this is the highest yield i’ve gotten so far, with the 2nd highest being 320ml.

Honestly, I felt like a failure when i had to stop breastfeeding my #1 at 7 months because i was at my 2nd trimester with #2 and my supply dried up. Nothing i did could help me get my supply back up. So that was it, my breastfeeding journey stopped at 7 months when i had aimed to breastfeed for at least a year if not 2.

So i figured, with #2, i am given a good chance to not repeat my breastfeeding mistakes. And Thank God, this time round, my supply is so much more compared to the first time. 

I had hoped to tandem feed but the elder one just won’t latch. So i pumped fed him with EBM and latch the newborn.

So i’ll share my lessons learnt from #1.

1. Latch baby as soon as possible.

This, i couldn’t achieve.

With #1, i could only see him after 24 hours as he was brought to NICU right after delivery. Yea, i didn’t even get a glimpse of my baby yet. And throughout the hospital stay, i couldn’t room in with him and i could only direct latch (DL) him on his 3rd day. 

With #2, slightly lesser waiting time. 11 hours after my csect, i got him wheeled in and room in with me. I didnt get to see my #2 as well as he was brought to SCN right after the procedure. But the rooming in and latching on demand way before the 3rd day definitely helped my breasts get used to a baby’s suckling hence activating the milk production.

2. NO pacifier (for at least the first few wks)

I’m not against pacis here. In fact, being a first time mum (FTM), there was a lot of learning process with the #1. So when my mum shoved a pacifier into my #1’s mouth on his 5th day and convinced me it will make him more contented, i said okay. Little did i know, this pacifier would affect my supply!

With #2, 9 weeks on and no pacifier, i have no other choice but to nurse and nurse and nurse. No matter if he’s feeding or just for comfort. It is his suckling that helps me produce more milk.

3. Pump after latch (to be very careful)

Because i am feeding 2, i pumped after latching. I needed to pump out so i could feed the elder with my EBM. However, i think this really isn’t necessary if you’re not crazy over supply.

Trust me, it can get quite tiring and imagine the amount of washings to do! It also improved my supply so much that my #2 gags at my breasts each time during feeds.

4. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate! Hydrate like crazy.

Kid you not, i drink at least 2l of plain water.

And then i’ll have my coke, red date & longan tea, milk,yoghurt drink, date milk, milo, etc etc etc.

Just be sure you’re hydrated so that the body can do some magic and turn that water intake into precious milk for your LO!

5. Massage your breasts

If i’m lucky enough to get 10 mins shower time, i’d probably be using 7 mins to massage my breasts out under the hot shower. Helps me get the milk flowing and make sure no blocked ducts!

6. Not supplementing

As a FTM, i basically knew almost nothing about breastfeeding and i had no close friends who were mums to help me with my breastfeeding journey.

As my #1 was in NICU he was supplemented with Formula milk. So we continued mix feeding him until much later where we decided to stop supplementing and let him just DL instead. 

And when you supplement, baby don’t suckle. And when baby don’t suckle, your body does not need to produce milk. Hence,you milk production is affected.

7. Latch on demand

Previous point, mummies! Baby suckle = milk production.

The more baby suckles, the more milk is produced!
These are a few of the mistakes i learnt from. However, while at this,you may want to avoid being an oversupply mummy cos there’s much more problems then just more milk. Go read up on that yea?!

Oh, it’s feeding time! Gotta go! See you next post!

Love,  MamaHS

Mummy of 2, officially.

Hey hey hey!

Say hello to that little fingers! (and the unexpected big wide yawn)

It has been only slightly over a month that i am officially a mummy of 2. Oh the struggle of keeping up, is so so real. Especially when the elder one is only 13 months old. 

So #babyHS2 had to be delivered through cesarean section (c-sect) and i kid you not, i told my hubby i’d do natural birth 10 times over, i’m okay with that. Just don’t let me go through another c-sect. 

Well, that’s based on my experience and here’s why:

1. I missed the elder one.

Because he just turned THE BIG ONE about 2 weeks before i delivered #babyHS2, it is obvious he didn’t understand what was going on. He came to visit me at the hospital and cried for me to carry him. And because i was still hurting from the op, i had to say no. I really missed him for the first 1 week at least.

2. Longer hospital stay

I mean, come on! Who loves staying in the hospital?!

3. Longer recovery period

With #babyHS1, i recovered within a week of the natural delivery. I can do things as per normal by the 5th day although i was abit slow. But believe it or not, now, 1 month later, i am still in recovery mode. I remember the first 2 weeks being so tough i almost cried for feeling like a weakling. And now, i even have to be more cautious. I used to do alot more around the house but now,hubby says to leave it all to him. Ahh, that’s a plus point for having a c-sect. Heh.

4. I miss my panties and jeans.

Hmm.. this may be TMI, but seriously, i can’t wear my panty without hurting the the wound area. Even up till now. It can really get a little too painful okay? Jeans? Forget it. I don’t even wanna try putting it on. My life revolves around yoga pants and dresses now. Haha!

5. I was scared of showering.

I am just gonna be honest here. I didn’t shower for the first week. Hurhurhur.. Although i had hubby to help wipe me down, but you know, nothing makes u feel fresher like a shower does.

6. I felt like i didn’t “deliver”.

So you get visitors, they asks about your labour story and you don’t have much to say because it’s elective c-sect. So someone commented “oh, so u didn’t really deliver la…”. Hmmm.. that someone deserves a stab on her tummy.

7. The jab.

For 3 nights i was in the hospital, the nurses mercilessly jabbed me on my tummy. To prevent blood clots they say. The pain that comes after the jab is nothing compared to the wound itself but i wouldn’t want to remember it. Urghhh.

I can give you a long list but i guess this is enough. Don’t wanna make mummies going thru c-sect read this and make them feel anxious. Hahaha!

Life now is definitely more hectic with two under 2. But i’m definitely still learning to cope.

Now i’m off to get some sleep, see you when i see you!

Love,

MamaHS 

Failed attempt.

So.. the ECV procedure was a failure.

My little baby just refused to budge, even a little.
Thing is, he’s in a footling breech position but i gave it a shot because you know what they say, you don’t know until you try it yourself!

Image result for footling breech

The doctors also mentioned he is in a weird position whereby his body is slanted to the left side of my tummy and his face is facing upwards!
HAHA! My baby’s complicated even before he’s born!

So for the benefits of those mamas worried about their breech babies and wants to try the ECV procedure, here’s what i went through.

  • My appointment was set at 9am, and i was asked to fast since the night before in case there is a need for e-csect if baby is in distress or waterbag ruptured, etc etc etc. (phew! thank god all was a-okay!)
  • They put the CTG devices on me and started monitoring baby’s heartbeat.
  • 10-ish, a doctor came to do some simple scanning, to check the baby’s position, water level and confirmed that it’s safe for a try.
  • 10 minutes later, another specialist came in and did another scan. she then explained the risks, briefed me on what’s going to happen and stuff.
  • Administered a type of medication i forgot the name to relax my muscles and the 2 lady doctors started the procedure. During the procedure, they kept pushing and scanning to make sure baby is fine.
  • For about a good 15 mins, they tried to turn my baby but he really just won’t budge. In the end, procedure abandoned because they wouldn’t want to put too much pressure and rupture the sac.
  • Continued monitoring baby’s heartbeat for about and hour or so before they released me home.

I would say that the process itself wasn’t painful but probaby because my baby just won’t budge that makes it a little face-cringing for me.

Yes, i was a little disappointed that the procedure was unsuccessful. To make things worse, i begged my husband to take leave from work to accompany me because the clinic doctor said he will be allowed in for the procedure. But in the end, he had to wait outside for about 4 hours.

But hey, i tried and it didn’t work. So i believe God has better plans for me than what i have planned for myself.

To the other mamas worried about their breech baby, i wouldn’t recommend you calling any makcik urut to get your baby back into position. Just to be safe, i would rather you go through the ECV in case baby is distressed, caught in his own cord, etc etc etc. Just make sure baby’s safety is your priority!

We scheduled for a csect birth next week (at 39 wks) and till i become a mother of 2, see you next time!

Love,
MamaHS.

The unplanned plan.

So i’m at my 37th week now and guess what?
Baby’s in breech position. Hmmm.. Guess my consoling and comforting does not work on this little one ey?

So i’m scheduled for an External Cephalic Version (ECV) or simply put, an attempt to turn the baby in the womb, tomorrow morning. This is done so that i can have a normal vaginal birth instead of a cesarean section (c-sect). My gynae is pro-natural, thank god, and she understood that i have a toddler i have to care for all by myself (with minimal help from husband especially after he has to return to work after the paternity leave.). Hence, she insisted we gave ECV a shot.

While my gynae has been very positive about it, she did mention that there are risks to it. She has been assuring me that it will be okay but hey, isn’t it just our nature to want to find out more about something before we go through it and experience it for ourselves.

So what are the risks, you ask? This is what was mentioned by my gynae.

  • success rate is 50-60%.
  • if during the procedure, we experience rupture of placenta, an emergency c-sect will be done.
  • baby will have to be monitored during the whole process. any signs of distress in baby, an emergency c-sect will be done.
  • may trigger labour.
  • baby may be injured if there is not enough fluid in amniotic sac

 

Honestly, i am not prepared for the baby. I want a little more time to myself, husband and #1. Sounds a little selfish, but yes, this is an emotional journey. I wanted a January baby (at least 2017) so much because of the “support” i have been getting from those around me.

So i’ll be walking into the delivery suite with full of confidence i’ll make it back out within 3-4 hours. In shaa Allah, with God’s will.

But if anything against my plans were to happen, i shall resign to my fate and place my faith in Him that this is His plans for me and His plans are the best of plans for me. Amin.

So till the next time, i’ll let you know if the ECV is successful yea? 🙂

Love,
Mama HS

Pack, packing and still not packed.

Hey hey!

So now what? 36weeks into the pregnancy and i’m so not ready yet.
I started packing my hospital bag only yesterday but i couldn’t pack it all. I felt a little lost even when i have made some effort into making a Hospital Bag checklist!

Yet to pack the bag for #1 too and today, I AM PANICKING! (because i have felt more intense contractions)

So for those first time mummies out there wondering what to pack for your hospital bags, especially if you’re giving birth in KKH, here’s what i packed. Of course, i have an extra column for the #1, in case daddy forgets to bring “entertaining” stuff for our firstborn.

hospital-bag-checklist-1Do note that the hospital provides disposable undies for us mummies though. I just like being “extra” because i still have the one i bought when i was gonna deliver #1, 1 year ago and it expires only in 2019!

Now, anyone willing to share what they packed for the elder siblings who would be sleeping over at the grandparents’ while mummy is in labour? Heee.

Love,
Mama HS